What does self-love look like to you?

Have you ever sat down and thought about this question? We see instagrammers posting about self-love and self-care but sometimes we fail to recognise that self-love comes in all different shapes and sizes. Self-love isn’t one singular thing, it’s a variety of things that are custom fit to you. Loving yourself doesn’t just happen overnight. It’s a tough process that means you have to wake up and choose yourself every single day for the rest of your life. The process can be hard. It can be raw, emotional, overwhelming, lonely, but taking the time to know who you really are and learning to love yourself unconditionally is the best gift you could ever give yourself. Figure yourself out- What is it exactly that makes you happy? Which people are around you when you feel completely free and true to yourself?

Loving yourself is not the cliche bubble baths and spa days, although, we agree that is necessary when we are treating ourselves, but it’s about recognising the difference between a treat and a life change. Ultimately, you’re making yourself a priority. You are not settling in your life. You have boundaries, and you recognise that it’s okay to make mistakes. You are human, we make mistakes all the time, and that’s okay. The most important part of that is being able to forgive yourself and not give yourself a hard time over it.

The priorities you set yourself are completely unique to you. Likewise, how you choose to look after yourself is unique to you. Nobody else can tell you how to love yourself, only you have the answer to that. Sit yourself down and give yourself permission to rest. Learn to process your feelings and really get to know yourself. You are your best friend. What makes you happy? Who makes you happy? What boundaries do you need to set for yourself? Do you truly know and value your worth?

Although this is individual to you, sometimes it can be hard to think of where to start. Or maybe, you just need a little reminder. Below are a few quick tips on way’s to practice self-love:


  • Forgive yourself
  • Take care of your body physically
  • Feed your body with healthy foods
  • Say kind things to yourself- would you say that to a stranger?
  • Set boundaries
  • Surround yourself with positive people
  • Spend time outdoors
  • Spend time by yourself
  • Do something that makes you happy
  • Random acts of kindness
  • Write down affirmations and re-read them
  • Drink more water
  • Journal one thing you were grateful for that day
  • Be assertive – You are a fierce warrior
  • Be present- Really listen, really be in the room
  • Stand up for yourself
  • Prioritize yourself and your health – it’s okay to say no!
  • Forgive yourself when you get something wrong
  • Accept your imperfections, they are what make you uniquely you
  • Praise your progress and effort towards your goals

By Hollie Warwick

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